Here’s the other thing. You don’t even know what you’re doing or that you’re doing anything wrong! You are smart! You make your own money. You consider yourself successful. You have lots of accomplishments under your belt. How can you possibly be the one solely responsible for this? I know. It seems crazy to consider that you’re the one setting the stage for men to play you. But you do. And it’s because of behaviors that you’re doing that you’re unaware are backfiring on you and behaviors in him that you choose to overlook and/or make excuses for.