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Today, I had a conversation where we discussed why Janet Jackson would "need" money. Why would she marry a billionaire? Surely Janet doesn't "need" money. Some would argue not. I say differently. 

While Janet Jackson's net worth is $175 million, she married a man whose net worth is $1 billion, Wissam Al Mana.  (her ex Jermaine Dupri's net worth is $2 million) And at 50 years of age she gave birth to a son with her billionaire husband. Her divorce is deemed "the most profitable divorce" in the music industry. She's positioned to profit a cool $200 million from her divorce. 

Her marriage and divorce are a bit different from Jlo whose net worth is $358 million and her ex husband Marc Anthony's net worth is $40 million. Jlo makes $40 million per year. With that kind of income disparity, they opted for NO CHILD SUPPORT to be paid by neither party for the twins after their divorce. However, she is now dating Arod, whose net worth is $480 million. Ha..  Not bad Jlo.  She is an EXCELLENT business woman.

Serena Williams' situation is also a tad different than Janet Jackson's. Serena's net worth is $27 million while her husband, Alexis Ohanian's is $9 million. They have a baby girl together. 

An article written and posted on CNBC.com states the following; 

In HBO's new documentary, "Becoming Warren Buffett," the investing legend says there were "two turning points" in his life: "One when I came out of the womb and one when I met Susie."

"What happened with me would not have happened without her," he says of his first wife, who died in 2004.

In fact, the third richest man in the world says the biggest decision of your life will be who you choose to marry.

"You want to associate with people who are the kind of person you'd like to be. You'll move in that direction," Buffett said in a recent conversation with Bill Gates at Columbia University. "And the most important person by far in that respect is your spouse. I can't overemphasize how important that is."

We can see how the Janet, Jlo and Serena chose a mate who was a great provider for their children. They're intelligent men who have their own empires. 

If you're going to have a child, pick the best suitor... Financially, as well! These women married men who understand business because they also have businesses. In Janet's case, she married a man who was a billionaire and whose religion also dictated how she dressed and performed in her concerts. She felt controlled and according to her, he was abusive. Was it worth the $200 million addition to her bank account? Was it worth having a son by a very wealthy man? Honey...  Her marriage was very contractual. So was, Jlo's and Serena's. Their terms? I don't know. But the older I get the more my father's words make so much sense to me. He would say, "Linda, every relationship is contractual. You pick the man. You decide what you'll tolerate and not and so will he..."  Jlo wanted kids. She chose the one and only King of Salsa music, Marc Anthony. He's the top selling tropical salsa artist of all time! Serena had a baby with her husband, Alexis Ohanian. He's a tech entrepreneur and best selling author. He's been dubbed "Mayor of The Internet". He's the co-founder of a social news website called Reddit. These women did not have babies with just anyone. Are you flowing with what I'm saying here? 

Yes. A marriage is a business deal. It IS contractual. Nowhere on a marriage license does the word "love" appear. It is a LEGAL BINDING CONTRACT and as such it is stored at the courthouse.  

How do you choose your romantic partners? Are they an asset to you and you to them? Middle class people need to be extremely smart about who they choose to marry. I just love what Warren Buffet said. He said the major turning point in his life was when he met his deceased wife, Susie. He credits her with the riches he's amounted and the man he became. He says it would not have happened without her.  Are you the kid of person whose spouse will say this after you die? How are you positioning yourself to win in all areas of life? Are you looking for a mate who together you can have and be more than apart?