Why would anyone need a relationship & dating coach?  That is the question.  I like to compare this to why people hire a personal trainer.  They do so because they know they have a specific goal, (weight loss, leaning out or bulking up) and they need both a plan to make it happen and accountability to make sure they’re on the right track to achieve the goal in a specific timeframe. 

However, just like with a personal trainer if you don’t stick to the diet and workout program you won’t see results.  The same goes for working with me or any coach.   If you don’t do the required work and in some instances, if you don’t stop doing some of the things you’re doing, you won’t get the results you’re seeking. 

You don’t have to agree with or believe some of the things your coach tells you to do.  You just have to do them.  Let me explain why.  Your MINDEST needs to change.  Your belief is not required, only your willingness to do that new thing your coach is telling you to do.  As you do the new behavior and get results your mindset will start to change and you will in turn believe and accept this new behavior.  Results come LAST.  Mindset comes second.  Action (willingness) comes first.  Did you notice that belief is not part of the equation?  You must only believe in YOURSELF. 

Coaches are great to help you change the self-sabotaging behaviors that are keeping you stuck and holding you back from achieving the results you want.  And with Youtube, Periscope, Facebook Live, Instagram and Snapchat you can now see this coach’s personality type and decide if you want to work with him/her.  You make that decision. 

You wouldn’t ask your BFF to fix the brakes on your car.  You wouldn’t ask your hair dresser to fix your washer.  You wouldn’t ask your mom to help you learn Italian.  Why then do you rely on your friends and family to give you advice in areas of your life that they’re not an expert in?  They mean well when they give you advice but most of the time you just end up sharing similar frustrations with them and you leave those conversations the same way you started them.  Long story short, hire a coach when you want results in a specific area. 

Smart and successful women come to me when they want to figure out why they keep finding Mr. Wrong over and over again.  I'm going to teach you how pick out a playah, a liar, a cheater and a taker out the gate so you don't waste time with Mr. Wrong anymore.  I'm going to teach you how to stay safe while you're dating.  When it comes to relationships and dating...  I'm your secret weapon.  I'm going to give you an unfair advantage over other women.  So, if you want to start learning about what behaviors are holding you back from finding a good man, click here and sign up for the FREE e-course! 

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